An alternative to adult temper tantrums

“To allow others to make you feel bad is to allow others to have control over your life.” ~Victor Schueller

Sometimes people can say or do things that are hurtful.  The truth of the matter is that most of the time, people don’t realize that what they did or said was hurtful, because most people don’t intentionally do things to hurt people’s feelings.

There are, however, times when people don’t know how to handle being uncomfortable or how to handle adversity in their lives, so they resort to ineffective problem-solving strategies.  When young children don’t know how to solve their problems or feel uncomfortable, they usually resort to throwing themselves on the floor in a temper tantrum until someone (they hope) comes to their rescue and gives them what they want.

As adults, we would look pretty silly throwing ourselves on the floor in a tantrum, so we do other things, like slam doors, ignore people so they know we are upset at them, avoid eye contact, say things that are hurtful, or exclude others from activities, while letting them know that others are invited.

Remember that you are in control of your life.  It’s not your fault that others don’t know how to handle their problems.  Don’t let people shirk their accountability and responsibility by placing it upon you.  Remember, when you feel that someone is taking out their difficulties on you, it is not your responsibility to accept their abuse.

You are in control of your own life, and don’t let your life be ruined by someone else! 

Let’s choose to accept responsibility for our own difficulties and problems, and let’s choose to not accept responsibilities and difficulties of others!  Make yourself happy!  Don’t let someone else dictate whether you are happy or not.  You are in control!

Have a great day!

-Victor

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